Fucking

TOP

Guys will define themselves as Tops when they are the ones putting their cocks up someone’s arse. a guy might call himself a top, but ocassionally mix it up by taking a cock – but perhaps not enough to consider himself vers.

BOTTOM

Bottoms are the fellas who like taking cocks up their own arse. Even if someone identifies as a bottom, that doesn’t mean they necessarily bottom all the time – but it’s perhaps the side of the fence they sit on usually.

VERS

Versatile guys =will take the role of top or bottom depending on their mood. ‘Flippers’ are versatile and will do both roles during the one session.

SIDE

The boys who prefer not to take either role. These guys might be more keen on oral, or jerking off, using toys – or just other kinds of sex.

It doesn’t matter what role we prefer, there is nothing wrong with choosing the most pleasurable and satisfying experience based on our preference. A popular misconception in some parts of the community is that tops are the ones in control, but there are many dominant bottoms who will prove this concept wrong – time after time.

People living with HIV who take effective anti-retroviral treatments (ART) medication and maintain an undetectable viral load cannot pass the virus on to their HIV-negative sexual partners during sex.

If you (or the guy you’re fucking) has maintained an undetectable viral load – the virus cannot be transmitted. Fucking while undetectable? There’s no HIV risk regardless of whether you use a condom, or not.

Remember

If you’re fucking guys casually on the regular and using their undetectable status as your strategy – it may be worth considering if PrEP is right for you so that you can know you’re protected no matter the other guys’ status.

Even if you or your partner have an undetectable viral load, if you fuck without condoms – other STIs may pop up from time to time. Getting a full STI test regularly is a great way to detect any STIs early so you can treat them, and prevent passing them on to the guys you fuck.

Find our more in-depth info about how Undetectable Viral Load works on our Undetectable page

Pre-exposure prophylaxis is an effective way to prevent HIV simply by taking a medication.

Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is a way to use anti-HIV medications by HIV-negative people to reduce the risk of HIV infection.

Find our more in depth info about how PrEP works on our PrEP page

PrEP will only protect you against getting HIV, if you are having condomless sex on PrEP you are still at risk of acquiring all other STIs.
It is important that you regularly test for STIs, even if you are taking PrEP. If you are thinking about starting PrEP it is important that you go to a doctor
that understands HIV medication and will monitor your health adequately while you are using PrEP. For a list of doctors and GP clinics that can help you access PrEP click here. For information about getting PrEP online please click here or if you are interested on reading more about PrEP, please click here.
Condomless anal sex increases the risk for transmission of HIV (if you are not on PrEP) and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including Hepatitis C.
The best way to the reduce risk of transmission of HIV is to get on PrEP or to use condoms and water or silicone based lube.

Find our more in depth info about condoms and on our Condoms page.

Find our more in depth info about PEPand on our PEP page.

Is an agreement between HIV-negative men in an established relationship to have unprotected anal sex with one another. To engage in sex outside of the relationship the guys
in the relationship must be on PrEP or use condoms. It is recommended to discuss what will happen if the agreement is broken and leave the possibility of renegotiation open.
To facilitate “negotiated safety”, there is a process that you can use called the four “T”s:
Talk: Be sure you understand what you are getting into;
Test: Go for your first test. If you go with your partner(s) it can be easier and less stressful;
Test: Because there is a window period with HIV testing where antibodies can take up to six weeks to develop, the second test is necessary to confirm that you are negative;
Trust: Trust that your communication is open and honest enough to say when the agreement has been broken without fearing consequences within the relationship.
PROS: If followed properly, negotiated safety is a very effective technique to reduce HIV transmission giving allowance to unprotected anal sex.
CONS: Open relationships don’t work for everyone. Negotiated safety relies on open communication, trust and honesty. When it comes down to sex and relationships, not everyone is able to communicate effectively.
Negotiated safety does not refer to casual sex. It is impossible to know the HIV status of any person you are hooking up with casually. They may assume that you are the same
HIV status as them (HIV positive or HIV negative) or they may be HIV positive and not know it. It is important to maintain protected sex practices (PrEP or condoms and lube) with casual hook ups.

When the Top withdraws before cumming.
PROS: In the absence of PrEP or the use of condoms, withdrawing before cumming is safer than cumming inside.
CONS: HIV is present in blood, pre-cum, cum and anal mucus. There is a possibility of a HIV infection to occur if the negative partner is bottoming and he is not on PrEP
even without the positive partner ejaculating in him. If the HIV negative man is the Top and not on PrEP (and the Bottom is positive) it is also possible that HIV can enter
through the urethra.

This is the practice of deciding to be the Top or Bottom depending on your HIV status. The theory is that if you are negative, it is less risky to fuck without condoms if you
are the Top (the insertive partner).
PROS: In theory it is more effective than withdrawal on decreasing the risk of HIV transmission.
CONS: HIV is present in anal mucous. Tops can still get HIV by the virus entering the bloodstream through the urethra, if they are not on PrEP or using condoms.

This is the practice of only engaging in unprotected fucking with guys who have the same HIV status as you.
PROS: This strategy allows you to fuck safely without condoms if you can be certain of your partner’s HIV status.
CONS: Whilst it may be possible to determine if your partner is HIV positive, it is impossible to know if he is negative if he is a casual fuck. In fact, transmission often
happens when someone who is HIV positive believes he is still HIV negative. In addition, even if you are able to determine that both partners are HIV positive
if you fuck without condoms it is still possible to pass on other STIs such as Gonorrhoea, Syphilis or Hepatitis C.